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It’s how we choose to engage with and use technology in our lives that really matters.

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There is no escaping it. Technology, social media, and all things digital are a huge part of our lives. The merging of our digital and #InRealLife identities are increasingly entwined, and the relationship grows more complex the more we engage with and rely on these systems.

From our mobile phones to our laptops, desktops, Smart TVs, and games consoles, we interact with technology on multiple levels, and there’s no doubt it has helped to make our lives better in so many ways.

And, as much as I want to deny it, the truth is I’m totally dependent on my phone.


There are mixed opinions about the idea, and actuality, of traveling solo for pleasure, especially as a female.

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When I first started traveling on my own, many of my friends (and more specifically my mother) expressed concerns. Not only for my general safety but also for the oddity they thought my desire to journey alone indicated. It seemed to be a much bigger thing in some people’s minds than my own. I was repeatedly asked, why? As though there needed to be a more profound reason behind my decision. My response of ‘because I want to’ simply didn’t measure up. At the time, I was single, and traveling alone was an enjoyable necessity. …


Nobody enjoys being wrong, but for some of us, it’s a lesson we need to get on board with.

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Nobody likes to realise they were wrong. I’ll be the first to shoot my hand sky high into the air and admit I hate learning I was wrong about something. It’s a part of myself I’ve had to work on and learn more about because the truth is? I’m wrong. All. The. Time.

We all are. We just don’t like admitting it.

From the mundane things, like insisting to my partner we have fresh milk at home, so no need to stop off at the local shop (we did not have fresh milk at home) to giving inaccurate advice to…


They’re the questions that most people stumble on once they get in the interview room. Here’s how to approach them like a pro’:

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You’d be hard-pressed to find anyone who would say they love attending interviews. But, no matter who you are or how experienced you might be, interviews tend to always send a few nerves rumbling.

It’s not so much the interview itself as the unexpected questions we might ask that tend to get us worried. Basic questions around our skills and experience are generally easier to answer, but what about the questions like ‘How good are you at asking for help?’ or ‘How do you create balance in your life?’. These questions are a bit more personal. …


As a freelancer, it pays to have a plan for where you want to get published

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The author Ashley Kalakgian Blunt hit it home for me when she said some writers seem to have a carefully curated list of where their writing gets published. Others — herself included — had a more machine-gun scatter approach. This approach generally involves firing work out into the world and hoping something sticks.

I think there is merit to both approaches. When I first started writing, I know I tended to be quite open and nondescript about where and who I wrote for. My core focus was on honing my work, and writing for lower-end platforms was a significant component…


But is it a bad thing?

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“The only way to make sense out of change is to plunge into it, move with it, and join the dance.” — Alan Watts

Whether from lovers, family or friends, You’ve Changed is an oddly loaded piece of word ammo. More often than not, we take that bullet deep into our hearts. Change is not something that is welcomed with open arms by most. Even the hardiest of us struggle with change.

‘You’ve changed’ is usually used in an attempt to discourage, insult, or justify behaviour. Very rarely do we use these words to acknowledge and celebrate change.

This is…


Our achievement-driven culture is making some people choose success over happiness.

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Our cultures are proliferated with rags-to-riches success stories. We love an underdog, and we love to hear how others have mastered through struggles (perceived or real) to achieve the fame and acclaim ‘meant for them’.

The tale of Steve Jobs dropping out of college after one semester to go on to build the founding success of Apple is a story that is consistently lapped up. Jobs faced several challenges on that journey (not least being fired from the company he co-founded, at the age of thirty), but he persevered. …


Shacked up or single, romancing yourself is always a good idea.

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Remoteness from everyday life … when I think of romancing myself, this little sentence sums it up perfectly. It’s different to being romanced by my partner, which, while still wonderful, really has more of a shared sense of connection and seeking in each other.

Self-romance has often led me to moments of joy. I remember my first solo trip to Europe and the wonderment at exploring life on my own terms. It was the same feeling I cultivated in every subsequent solo trip I took, and when I would take myself on solo dates around my home city of London.


Are boundaries selfish? The answer is more complex than ‘yes’ or ‘no’.

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Boundaries have been an ongoing conversation in my household.

My partner used to be a chronic people-pleaser, always putting other people before himself in ways that would impact or get in the way of his own needs. On the flip side, I’ve never had a problem issuing a firm ‘no’ when people or situations overstepped the mark. The great thing for us is we offer each other balance. He encourages me to be more open and flexible (something I often need reminding of) and I help him understand when he needs to lay down a line and stick to it.


Changes and transitions — especially in our work — require preparation. Here are four things to get right to make sure you’re financially covered.

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I wanted to change careers for a while, but many things prevented me from doing so. Mainly, I still loved the work I did as a careers educator. There were challenges and setbacks, but overall, it was (is) still something I enjoy doing. I just wanted a change and the opportunity to explore other parts of my professional identity.

Plus, I was starting to feel a bit burnt out. It’s not an industry that’s given a high priority in many educational organisations (lots of public lip-service but very minimal funding or resources to do things better).

When I decided I…

Elaine

Psychology & Health Writer | Psychologist-in-Training | Careers Educator | Covering: Careers with Purpose, Positive Psychology + Creative Living without the BS

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